The Rules of Friends with Benefits
As with any dating exchange, it is important to set some basic guidelines which outline exactly what you’re looking for – and what you’re not. Your AshleyMadison.com profile needs to be clear about your expectations as well those of your potential partner.
Let’s say, for instance, you are in committed relationship and are looking for a casual sexual partner who not only shares your passion and erotic desires, but also respects your lifestyle and absolute need for discretion. You may come across some very arousing prospects in your search, but make sure they ultimately want what you want – a no commitment discreet encounter that is separate from your day-to-day life.
If you want to connect with an open-minded friend who also wants to stay “under the radar” and away from emotional entanglement, then make sure you’re clear from the start. Get to know your prospects first through online site chats and phone calls. Texts are riskier and easier to detect. And you should definitely learn about their social media behavior. Are they active posters on Facebook, Twitter, YouTube or Snap? Will they be tempted to broadcast your hook up or booty call to the social media world? That’s the last thing you want out of this relationship.
You may ultimately decide to concentrate only on married dating online. Remember you’re not looking for another spouse or romantic commitment. You’re looking for a friend with benefits – and only that.
The internet is full of many sites dedicated to the dos and don’ts of friends with benefits dating. An interesting article by Eric Charles in A New Mode ezine (3) concisely points out the importance of setting clear ground rules and communicating your expectations before embarking on this type of relationship. These guidelines help to set the tone for your time together by keeping things clean and simple and focusing on what you really want – sexual pleasure and exploration – with no drama. It’s certainly worth reading.
Online chats through AshleyMadison.com and telephone conversations are important tools to help you refine your search before meeting a potential friend. And once you decide to meet, make sure you choose a discreet location that is comfortable for both of you.
After that, you may soon be on your way to one of the most thrilling and sexually rewarding rides of your life.