NSA - TIPS & BEST PRACTICES
While the idea of a NSA relationship is tempting, with no commitment and just sexual satisfaction, there are some practices you should follow when getting on board. Take heed lovers, and follow these best practices:
Be up front about what you want
There is nothing worse than lying- so don’t. Be honest with your intended sex buddy. Set some boundaries and some ground rules (for yours and your partner's protection) to make sure that things go smoothly during the relationship and that everyone plays nice when things do come to an end.
If you want to see others while you are seeing this person, let her or him know. If you have certain things you like and dislike, favored positions, toys and certain limits, let the other know. Demand the same of your partner. It’s important that you are both on the same page. No surprises means no disappointments. Even though there is no commitment, you need to respect each other.
Don’t get jealous
Keep the green-eyed monster out of your get-togethers. Even if you are jealous about the other people your buddy is seeing, getting emotional about the relationship will usually result in misery. If jealousy does creep in, and you start fighting, say goodbye. Everyone will be better off.
Realize that this likely will come to an end at some point … no strings relationships usually have an expiry date. This is about enjoying each other, your bodies, your touches, orgasms and just feeling great in the moment. It will come to an end, and life will be easier if the split is amicable.
Remember – no commitment, no expectations
This is non-committal – it’s all about the sex. There is no love, no missing the other person, no hand-holding, no special looks, no presents, and no cute texts. You’re not a couple.
This is a no-brainer. The two of you (or three, if that's your thing) may be in agreement that you will pursue the NSA relationship, but both of you will probably be seeing other people. You both need to use protection when you are together (and preferably when you’re with others). Not only do you have to worry about dreaded diseases that require a doctor’s treatment, you also run the risk of an unwanted pregnancy.
Shhh…keep it secret
Keeping a discreet encounter a secret is very important, whether you have a committed relationship outside of the NSA relationship or not. Even though it's all fun, with no commitment, there are still consequences if you're not careful. If you’re in a committed relationship, letting the wrong people in on your secret could be disastrous. People holding secrets slip up without meaning to, and you could suffer in the end.
Keep it cool
Always keep a cool and level head. If you act differently around your spouse or partner, suspicions could arise and you could be reaching for explanations.
That said, put some planning into this, particularly if you are in a committed relationship. Always have an alibi, and plan to know what to say if someone asks questions.
Hold your head up, and smile!
We tend to worry about what others think of us. But if you do want an NSA experience, don’t let someone or something stand in the way.
Enjoy it - don’t judge yourself. Let all of that go, because this is for you. Make sure you’re happy and satisfied, and do the same for your partner. Try new things and explore – this is research and development at its most awesome.